All the Single Ladies, Find Your Inner Calling
To all the single ladies wondering when they’ll finally meet “The One”, my advice is that a woman focused on pursing her inner calling screams of sexy.
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If you’re of the age now when many of your friends are married or seriously dating and you’re wondering when your turn will be to meet that special someone, my advice for you is to first pursue your inner calling and let that guide you to true love.
You may be wondering how does pursuing your inner calling make sense when you feel pressured from friends and family members to be more proactive about dating and reaching outwards to others. Some people may have told you to try online dating. Others will suggest singles mixers. People may even offer to set you up on blind dates. If you’re reading this post then perhaps you may have already explored or seriously considered such avenues. And yet, perhaps something about all this dating sprinkled with some elements of pretense just doesn’t feel right. It shouldn’t be so difficult to make such an effort to meet that special someone you tell yourself. You may start to wonder if you’re doing something wrong and whether or not you may need to make adjustments to your personality.
I believe this tension is an inner calling you have that says you should be able to freely be yourself and that someone out there will go gaga over that YOU without all the pretense. I’m often amazed at how many attractive, successful, caring and intelligent lady friends I know expend so much of their energy wondering if there’s something wrong they are doing or something they are not doing that keeps them single. Now I’m not suggesting that you should not be proactive about meeting people nor do I recommend confining yourself to a castle and waiting for your Rapunzel to come charging. Rather, what I mean is that if you are constantly thinking about finding that someone you may lose interest in important matters that are tugging at your heart.
Ladies, if I may speak on behalf of those single “nice geeks” out there, I’d say that it’s hard to find something more attractive than a woman who is completely engaged and passionate about her inner calling. It tells us that you have a lot of self-esteem and that you have goals. It also allows us empathize with your thoughts and feelings and allows us to see a very intimate side of you- the things that bring excitement to your voice and the vision of something grand in your eyes.
So how do you find your inner calling? I believe one simple test is to ask yourself what has been nudging you besides not finding that special someone. Is there some form of injustice or inequality you wish you could address? Perhaps you have a heart for assisting the poor and marginalized (what about organizing relief efforts for victims of natural distasters, domestic violence, etc.). Is there something you’ve been thinking about attempting, but been hindered by the time commitments (studying a foreign language, taking up guitar lessons, running a marathon)? These are just but a few examples of what may be an inner calling you have.
Pursue your inner callings with a renewed sense of conviction. Before you pick up another self help book or browse another dating website, jot out some ideas as to what your inner calling may be. Then set aside some alone time this week to research more about that subject. Afterwards, talk to others about these matters and see what additional advice and support you may receive. If pursuing your inner calling may require some capital investment, make a budget time and start saving for it. There are many readily available online tools like Google Docs that provide spreadsheets or personal finance sites like Mint.com to help you with budgeting. Make this inner calling of yours a topic of your conversations with others and perhaps you may even find partners to tackle these goals together. The point is to start devoting more of your time back to pursuing your inner calling and trusting that this route will lead you to finding that special someone.
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By Kat Bella, February 16, 2010 @ 6:16 PM
Hi! Stumbled onto your site from another Twitter link. Thanks for the reminder! Looking forward to reading more articles like this.